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Thursday, August 30, 2012

STILL THE FASTEST MAN ON THE PLANET..... Usain Bolt


STILL THE FASTEST MAN ON THE PLANET…USAIN BOLT
Email address obaid93070@aol.com
Usain Bolt lost for the first time in two years to Tyson Gay in the 100 meters and speculation has been from a nagging injury to simply not being focus. But Aug. 5th The Fastest Man On The Planet defended his Olympic title in the 100 meters beating his training partner Yohan Blake.
My interview with Usain Bolt.
Daood: Beginning at what moment in your successful track career it becomes apparent, that you are on the path to becoming the fastest man on the planet?
Usain Bolt: I think the defining moment was at the IAAF World Junior T&F Championships in Kingston in 2002.  I was 15 years old at the time.  The competition was for athlete sunder 20.  I won the gold medal in the 200m and realized that if I could beat athletes 5 years older than me I must be good.
Daood: Backtrack for us to 2002 in which you became the youngest person to win a gold medal in the 200 meters and the mental and physical preparation that brought about your victory? 
Usain Bolt: Being on home soil in Kingston the meet was even bigger for us Jamaican athletes that if it had been abroad.   The World Junior Champs is always big but this one was more special as it was our own people – friends and family – watching us run.  I was so nervous coming out into the stadium as it was the biggest crowd I had ever run in front of.    When I came into the stadium I heard a cheer and was looking round to see what the crowd was cheering at.  Then I realized it was for me – It was a great feeling.
Daood: Familiarize for those of us the story of the love for cricket transitioning to track and field? 
Usain Bolt: I grew up watching cricket as my dad is a big cricket fan.  In Jamaica we play a lot of cricket when we were younger and I was quite good at it.  It was my teacher in school that saw I was fast when I was bowling and advised me to try running.  I had immediate success and haven’t looked back since.
Daood: 2008 Olympics you accomplished setting records in the 100 meters, the 200 meters, and the 4x 100 meter relay record with your Jamaican team.  You’re the first man to achieve this goal. How important is for you to be a trendsetter?
Usain Bolt:  I just like to win races.  Everything came together in Beijing in 2008 and my three gold medals and world records will be remembered for a long time.   I think it was also the first time that the world got to see my personality and maybe the way I have fun and play with the crowd before and after the race was a new trend in athletics.
Daood: Overall what changes can be made to improve the sport of track and field?
Usain Bolt: T&F is a very demanding sport and athletes have to train extremely hard to be successful.  The beauty of our sport is that almost all countries are taking part – there will be around 230 countries competing in athletics in the Olympic Games newt year so it is truly a global sport.   In order to keep attracting the best talent T&F needs to become more lucrative and innovative – we already tried the street meet concept and this has been successful and may be something that brings more kids into the sport.
Daood: Outdoor or Indoor stadium, what are advantages and dis-advantages when performing in one or the other?
Usain Bolt: For me it is difficult to run indoors as the track in only 200m and the straightaway is only 60m long.  It suits the smaller runners.  The outdoor track is 400m and the turns are not as tight.
Daood: Upon winning the 2011 World Male Athlete of the year award you stated that, “…it has motivated me even much harder and to enter this coming season with even greater fight.”
Daood: Exactly, what are some of the improvements that you made for the 2012 season?
Usain Bolt:  Training harder and longer.  I ended the 2011 injury free. 
Daood: And your motto is?
Usain Bolt: Run fast and have fun!
Usain Bolt........
Usain Bolt



Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Interview with Crystal Victoria


Will you introduce yourself to our So Fyh Readers?
Crystal Victoria
My name is Crystal Victoria and I’m a published author, entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and life & business coach. I do my best not to place real definitions on myself or what I do because I’m not someone I can really define. If I do or try, I'd be limiting myself and I don't believe in those, hence the title of my book. What I can tell you is I’m on a mission. My role, at this point, is providing a solution to the unemployment rate. Target Evolution is the solution and I’m very passionate about assisting in the advancement of education and people. I love people, I love to be of service, and I’m not a stranger to hard work.

When did you start writing?
I’ve always kept a journal since I learned to write. Writing is a means of escape for me. There are many things that I want to say, but sometimes the only way for me to communicate effectively is through writing. In addition to that, there are times when the only way for me to understand the things I’m feeling or thinking is by writing them out.

And how long have you been writing?
I believe I began writing in the first grade. I’d love to scribble. There is something about a pen flowing on paper that I love. The things I type are usually handwritten first. I read a quote once that said “When we write the eye, mind, and hand are all involved.” Since I read that I wondered if maybe that’s why I like to write so much.

Can you tell our readers what genre that you write and why?
I write non-fiction. I probably could write fiction or short stories, but I’m more of a philosophical thinker and I love getting my thoughts down on paper. I do a lot of meditation and I allow my spirit to talk through me in my writing.

What is your writing routine?
I really don’t believe I have a routine per say. There are days or specific times when I can be sitting around thinking or reading and a thought crosses my mind. At that moment, I’ll stop whatever I’m doing to complete it and expand on it. I call it “A flow of creative juices”. During those times I can write for hours and one thought or idea leads to the next, and the next and before I know it I’ve written several pages on thoughts that I’ve had.

What inspired you to write?
My grandmother inspired me, but I know the gift came from my mother. My mother is an excellent poet, and she always has been. She never really tapped fully into that talent, but I picked it up and I allowed mine to flow.

How personal is your writing?
My writing is very personal because I write based on what I’m going through, feeling, or thinking. I don’t hold anything back. I write my secrets as a means of getting them out. I learned that me keeping secrets, kept me crazy. I have nothing to be afraid of and I get sick of covering myself and other things up. My theory is if the skeletons if your closet are dead, cause they’re skeletons. There’s no need to be afraid of them. Just clean house before they start to stink and someone else smells it and tell it.

The worse thing that happens all too often is for other people to tell someone else’s story or their versions and perspectives of it. It’s not easy but it’s far simpler to just tell the truth about whatever people are already going to talk about before they make things up. It’s difficult to reverse rumors, so I just make it easy and put it out from the horse’s mouth.

As a writer what you say has been your greatest achievement in the industry?
My greatest achievement was discovering that I really had something to say that could help people and that I had a story to tell. I’m still in amazement when people tell me that my story is inspiring because I never thought it as such. I was ashamed of it, and I couldn’t hide it but I had to deal with it someway. When I realized that publishing my life story helped me to deal with all of that mess and help others at the same time, I felt more than accomplished and beyond successful. I felt like I was a human that belonged in the world, and no longer was it all that bad.

If you could change anything about your process would and why?
I’d probably begin my own publishing and marketing company. I have great contacts and I really learned how to market myself quickly. The publishing company I have was wonderful, but I saw how much work I had to do still after their work was done. Somehow I made it happen, and I feel confident that I could make it happen for others too. In my path came an amazing publicists, who’s exceeded my expectations and there are truly no limits to where this partnership or my network can go. I’m truly grateful.

If you could work with any author who would it be?
I’d have to get Omar Tyree. I have read every book he’s written and I love his urban style.

If someone wanted some advice about how to get started in writing what would you say to them?
Make sure it’s a passion and not an interest first. A lot of people want to do things, but those things do not fit them. I love to sing but I’m not a  Beyonce, and if I practiced every day and went to school to learn, I’d still never be Beyonce. Writing is a gift in itself that is truly natural. Yes you can learn to do it and do it well, but who’s to say that you’ll be happy with it later. So I guess my first tip would be “Know thyself”.

Next, I believe that in order to be a great leader, you must be an even better follower. So my next tip would be to do a lot of reading. From this you can determine what styles you like and what your style is. Once you’ve determined your style, you have to truly see how easy writing that style is to you. If I tried to write a fictional short story, I may get writer’s block and it’s take me 2 or 3 years. It’s more difficult for me to creative write. Some people have fantastic imaginations and can just think of a plot and write about it. Whichever you do well…do better what you already do well. Focus on the style that comes most natural to you. So to sum it up step one is know yourself, step two is read a lot, step three is determine your style or genre, step four is focus on what comes easy to you.

I see that you’ve written a few books, and with each one which one was the most difficult to write and why?
Well I’ve written one novel which is my autobiography and the other book is an entrepreneurship course and program that can be taught in schools or stand alone. I could say that it’s pretty much a business model that is working.

Honestly, even though my entrepreneurship course was difficult, writing my life story was hard because of what I had to write about. How do you tell the world you’re an ex-offender, drug addict, and once upon a time you were a prostitute? How do you easily tell the world that you mistreated your mother because you were a spoiled brat? There is no easy way to communicate that message besides just doing it. What was even harder was looking at it and reading it for myself, all put together. Every event that I had to detail, I had to re-live and experience the emotions associated with it all over again. I remember the hardest chapter for me to write about was the chapter about the domestic violent relationship I was in. A few mornings after writing parts of it I’d have nightmares or wake up angry all over again. It was a rather strange process, but since I’ve written it and read it several times now it doesn’t even bother me but at first I almost quit.

As businesswoman and a career as a writer, how do you find the time to host virtual book tours, write books and work on websites is that hard to do all at once? Then what is your strategy?  
Of course it’s hard to do all at once, but I’ve learned to do as much as I can while I can without procrastination. There’s another quote which reads “We have the same amount of hours in a day as Albert Einstein, Michelangelo, Picasso, and Benjamin Franklin” With all the things they contributed to civilization, you’d wonder if they ever had a wink of sleep. Truth is they didn’t sleep much but we all do rest. I work hard, play hard, and have a whole lot of fun in between. I keep a sense of humor and sometimes I’m laughing so hard at what I’m writing or saying that I forget I’m actually working. That is my strategy.

What was your life like before becoming an author?
I was searching; searching for something to do and a way to fit in with the world. Little did I know it would make me stand out, but I wanted to do something and accomplish something; I didn’t care what; just something positive and purposeful. I begged God to give me something to do or shine light on something I could do to put me out of my misery. When He lit up my journals, I laughed but I also said to myself “Thy will be done.” The rest is history.

Can you tell us about your upcoming book?
My upcoming book is the sequel to From the Streets to the Skies No Limits, and it’s about my first year in business and all the drama associated with the creation of my non-profit organization. It’s some wonderful tips for people starting their business about harmonizing business and personal life based on my mistakes and how to overcome them by perseverance. I believe that by the end of the year I’ll make a decision on whether it’ll be published in April or if I’ll extend it out some. Like my first book, its lots of drama, bad decisions, disappointment, and adversity but it ends with lots of success and achievement. I’m grateful to be here and on this side of it, but realize that without those bad things happening we wouldn’t appreciate the good. They all happen for a reason and work together for our good and are really just experiences and lessons learned.

Can you tell us about your challenges in getting your first book published?
The only challenge I had with the first book was the editing, and that’s because I didn’t wisely choose an editor. Once I got past that it was a breeze because I had an amazing publishing company. The cool thing was, even though they did everything for me, I still learned and taught myself how to do what they did. There have been things that I thought I could do and could have done better, so that’s why I’d consider my own publishing company.

Do you read reviews of your books? If so, do you pay any attention to them at all, or let them influence your writing?
Yes I do and I pay attention to all of them. However, I understand that I cannot please everyone. So far, I haven’t had any bad reviews and I’m really truly grateful.

Where can your book(s) be purchased from?
My books can be purchased from BarnesandNoble.com, Amazon.com, Author House.com, and CrystalVictoria.com.
How can the readers reach you?
Readers can reach me via Facebook at facebook.com/bossladydiary and on Twitter at twitter.com/diaryboss. In addition, they can email me at bossladydiary@gmail.com for interview request, to purchase books in bulk quantities, or to send comments or suggestions.

Thank you for your time and the opportunity to be a part of this interview! Much love!

Thursday, August 16, 2012

THE COUNTRY POP ROCK TOUR!! ANTI- BULLYING CONCERT

Danielle Taylor, Founder & Editor-in-Chief
THE COUNTRY POP ROCK TOUR!! ANTI- BULLYING CONCERT
BY: Danielle Taylor 
Photos By: Lee Taylor 
editor@sofyhmagazineonline.biz
twitter @sofyhmagazine

OMG........ So Fyh Magazine Online was invited to attend the Country Pop Rock Tour in Somerville, TN, on Monday, August 13, 2012 that was held at Fair Theater in Somerville, TN right in my town. What an amazing event! 

These young and talented recording artist are doing or should I say have done an amazing thing, to take a stand a dedicate an entire tour for the cause of 'BE A FRIEND NOT A BULLY'. We had an amazing time with them.  The main objective for this tour is to give up and coming Teen Artist the opportunity to tour while reaching out to varies communities and schools to speak out about the effects of Bullying. 

These artist made a visit to several schools to perform and talk the Bullying Project. With the out pouring help of Concert Supporters, Artist, Schools, Community leaders and Fans the tour hopes to generate a strong stand against Bullying. Part of the proceeds from the ticketed venues will go to the local school district to help fight Bullying. Can you imagine these 6 Artist, traveling 4 States,  stopping in 10 Cities, performing in 17 different Venues,  in just only 11 Days,  for One very important cause "Be A Friend Not A Bully".


The headliners for this great event was very worthy cause were Celeste Kellogg which is a former Radio Disney recording artist, also along with Tyler Layne another former Radio Disney recording artist, Riley Roth, Branden Mendoza, Dalton Cyr and Tristan Blaine. What a cool bunch, we had the opportunity to really hang out with them while their crews where setting up for the big show that took place later that evening. 

We had an up close and personal interview with each artist, little did we know what a treat we would be in for, from the very first moment we met them they're just soooo cute and sweet! Before I could keep writing allow me to thank the managers and parents of these artist KUDOS!!! Just because these are teenage music artist... they are just that teenagers full of life and a huge ball of fun.

We had the opportunity to ask them if they could work or if they worked?
Celeste Kellogg stated she would "love to work at a skating rink, which would be soo cool which would be a great place for a video shoot or work as a meteorologist because she likes weather".
Tyler Layne was excited to share with us that he works at Hollister the clothing, it wasn't that surprising to me, he had on a nice shirt....such a teen heartthrob.
Riley Roth said she "babysits, and would love to work in a clothing store like Rue 21 would be like cool."
Dalton Cyr , said he would work "somewhere like a paintball range".
Branden Mendoza stated he'd work a in the music industry something in the area of a music producer.
Tristan Blaine said, "he would more than likely work at a skating rink too, it would be kind of cool". 

When asked if anyone was actually dating or had a celebrity crush? 
 (basically they all pleaded the 5th no comments LOL). 

We also asked if they had had plan to attend college? 
They all have plans to attend college in the near future. 

We asked each of them what instrument they all loved and placed?  
Each of them has a great love for the guitar and piano.

We also asked them about going to school and friends?  
Even though they're all on tour right now, 2 did say they are done at this point and the other are home schooled.

We also asked if there was any road drama among them? 
Surprisingly they said they were all getting along and were having a blast! 

We would like to pray for their safe trip to their next stop as well as journey back home :)! Please keep up the good work that you're doing.
Tyler Layne Headliner for this Country Pop Rock Tour
Celeste Kellogg a headliner for this Country Pop Rock Tour




















These two headliners reached out to the other artist to team up and make this event possible. If you click on their names it will direct you to their websites.

Riley Roth looks on as another artist speaks.
Branden Mendoza lets a laugh.
Tristan smiling.....


Dalton looking cool.






Riley & Celeste smiled when asked if Justin Bieber was their celebrity crush.
Branden jokes with Dalton " D-Man" the youngest.
Tyler poses for the camera... Cute


Left Guitarist, Drummer in the middle and the bass Guitarist THE BAND!


Posing for A So Fyh Photo!!


Singing "Payphone"
Ladies the fellas are looking good!!!




Sharing a chuckle
Tyler & I for our So Fyh Photo
Branden and I posting for a photo




Riley & I posing
                                                                                                  
Celeste and I  posing for a So Fyh Photo

Dalton receiving a So Fyh Hug!
Tristan and I lookout Justin Bieber!




(L) Riley, Tyler, Danielle, Celeste, Branden, Dalton and Tristan @ The Country Pop Rock Tour Artist 2012 in Somerville, TN
 As we continued to hangout with them, when asked what actually inspired them to want to do this tour you would be so surprised with their answers. Click the video to find out more.  Thank you again your friends at So Fyh Magazine Online.


Wednesday, August 15, 2012

ARE YOU A WATCHMAN?


Winston Howard
 Are you a Watchman?  
By: Winston Howard

Greetings So Fyh readers, I had taken a hiatus but now I’m back with a renewed fervor.  Now, let me not take tarry in what I have for you.  I want to talk to you about being a Watchman.  Ezekiel 33:1-6 states,
And the word of Jehovah came unto me, saying,
2 Son of man, speak to the children of thy people, and say unto them, When I bring the sword upon a land, and the people of the land take a man from among them, and set him for their watchman;
3 if, when he seeth the sword come upon the land, he blow the trumpet, and warn the people;
4 then whosoever heareth the sound of the trumpet, and taketh not warning, if the sword come, and take him away, his blood shall be upon his own head.
5 He heard the sound of the trumpet, and took not warning; his blood shall be upon him; whereas if he had taken warning, he would have delivered his soul.
6 But if the watchman see the sword come, and blow not the trumpet, and the people be not warned, and the sword come, and take any person from among them; he is taken away in his iniquity, but his blood will I require at the watchman's hand.” (ASV)

I am encouraged while at the same time, disenchanted by this passage of scripture.  Disenchanted because as we’ve experienced over the past month, the fiasco known as “Chicken with a side of Hate,” and the ignorant perception people have of what the Bible supposed to stand for.  Some people only know one thing, “that God is Love” and that’s true, and they will never question that.  But if you also tell people that God is a jealous God, hating sin and everything it stands for and will impart his judgment upon those who commit these sins without reconciling with Him, those same people will then ask…Why?  I’m also encouraged that after a 1962 ruling in the U.S. Supreme Court which banned prayer from schools, and after the First Amendment rights implied the separation of Church and State, that there was somebody big enough, bold enough and financially stable enough to say and stand by What sayeth the Lord (besides the little old lady on the street corner of Navy Rd. and Church Rd. in Millington ).  It’s time we take a stand.  It’s time we become watchmen.  

If there’s any one person who should be connected to God is the “so-called” Christian…right?  Well, how do you define being a Christian?  That question along can take on many different answers, but in a simpler answer, it’s the person who loves his neighbor as himself.  I am on the notion that you love your neighbor by witnessing to him/her the good news of the Bible.  If you and your neighbor are on the same page, then you and your neighbor should witness to the next neighbor and so on.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr said that he wanted people to say that “he tried to clothe the naked, he tried to feed the hungry, he tried to visit the prisoners, he tried to love and serve humanity.”  Yes, Dr. King was right, we are rewarded for trying, that my friend is what a watchman does, he tries. 
In the Ezekiel passage, the watchman see danger coming and is supposed to sound the alarm that it is near so the people can prepare to protect themselves.  This is how our spiritual life should be.  We, who are Christians see the signs, we’ve read the scriptures and we believe the end days are near, so we should want to sound the alarm to as many of our neighbors as possible.  We should want all the people we know and love to have a relationship with God so that if they are consumed, then we can take comfort in knowing they are with the Lord.  

But it we just sit and watch the calamity happen and feel we are safe because sit high in the watchtower and do nothing…then it is our neighbors blood that God will require at the watchman’s hand.  Bottom line, if you see your family members, friends, colleagues, neighbors spiraling out of control, you have an obligation as the Watchman to sound the trumpet.

God Bless,
Deacon Winston Howard, Jr.

STOP THE VIOLENCE

STOP THE VIOLENCE     
Cyrisse Pate  
Cyrisse Pate
cyrissepate@yahoo.com
 
Why are all our young boys and young girls being gunned down and leave the parents to put them in the ground? We see the tears feel the pain and hear the cries. For we give them life and an act of violence causes them to die. As parents we do out best to protect them from any harm we must continue to pray that the guns disarm. Our children are the future and we are losing them at an early age and if there's a witness they disengage.
 
The hurt that is inflicted after a parents loss may not be totally financial but, our hearts pay the cost. It's been so many deaths and wont seem to cease. We can have a zillion marches but, will that help increase the peace as our children walk the streets? Unfortunately we cant always be there when they are out of our sight so, we help enforce curfew and expect them to come in before night.
 
 
Even though they take their lives also during the day and all we can do is endure the pain and pray, pray I don't wish that upon anyone and I'm tired of the violence so the answer is to run. No matter where you go it can happen there too so, society what else can we do? I wish we knew!
 
 
Pray, pray is what we say and hope another child isn't taken away. Will we ever come together  and change this vicious cycle called crime that is destroying and depleting our girls and boys each time. Hopefully one day we can become a nation of appreciation and where life is cherished and not 
perished.
 
Love one another instead of senseless conflict and make a casket the last thing a parent has to pick!
 
May God bless all parents that have lost their children to violence!
 

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

The Meaning of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE at it's BEST



Tosha Peete Holliman
Twitter: @tpeete0727

The Meaning of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE at it's BEST
 On November 2010 I was about 5 months pregnant when we found out our baby would be born with Amniotic Band Syndrome. I had no clue what this was until then.  Aidan was born with bilateral above the knee amputee and below the left elbow amputee.  When I was pregnant I kept all of the pain and hurt inside. I broke down the day after we saw the Fetal Specialist.  Only a few people knew about this and I mean a few.  With all the hurt and pain inside I woke up every day and put a smile on my face. That’s all I could do to keep from crying daily. I went on like nothing was wrong.  I prayed daily for God to perform a Miracle. God spoke one morning as I was preparing for work through a preacher on TBN. He was telling a testimony about a lady he knew that was pregnant and the doctors told her that something was wrong with the baby’s legs and that there was a tumor in the brain. I cannot remember detail for detail but I do remember him saying that the doctors gave her the option to legally abort (same option that was given to us) and she said absolutely not.  Long story short she believed God for a miracle and it was so. Baby was born normal no tumor and legs fine. 
 After he finished telling that testimony he looked into the camera and said that someone watching God was going to perform 3 miracles; one we were about to see and 2 angelic. I felt the power of God that morning speaking directly at me.  I knew God was going to do just what he said. He spoke again through someone else “that he was going to perform a miracle”.  Monthly visits to the specialist weren’t good. Towards the end of my pregnancy there was more bad news. They said it was a spot on the baby’s brain and something was wrong with the heart. They wanted me to have a MRI and see a pediatric heart specialist. At that moment I said “NO” no more test.  My statement was whatever is wrong with this baby nothing can be done while it’s inside me so just let me finish this out without any more bad news. As time got closer I didn’t even want to have the baby I felt as if I could just stay pregnant forever all because I didn’t want to face what was about to happen. 
April 4, 2011 at 12:05am Aidan Jeremiah Holliman came into this world. After I delivered I glanced at the baby and asked as they were cleaning the baby up “What is it”, because we didn’t know what we were having. At that moment my world completely fell apart. That rude Neonatal ICU physician stated “I DON’T KNOW THE BABY PRESENT WITH GENTIAL OF A BOY AND GIRL!!”  I’m like at this moment in shock. They tried to hand the baby to me and I turned away in tears. I immediately asked  God what have you done to me, why did you allow this to happen, how can I raise a child that we don’t know if it’s a boy or girl and it’s already missing it’s limbs. 
All I could hear in my head was that song God is able to do just what he said he would do, he’s going to reveal every promise to you, don’t give up on God cause he won’t give up on you HE’S ABLE, over and over in my head as I cried. No matter what my aunt and friend said it did not comfort me. I kept trying to block that song out of my head but couldn’t.  I finally said to myself I got to go see my baby it’s my baby, no matter what’s missing that baby need me. I went to the NICU and as soon as I laid eyes on baby Holliman I cried. I asked the nurse do you know what it is “she said a boy, do you want to see for yourself” I said yes. So she let me change the diaper and there it was a penis. Now how can you not tell what it was? Immediately, the enemy had jumped all in my life.  His first stop was my delivery, second me, third my husband, fourth my marriage, fifth my home, sixth my job, seventh my car and eighth my children.  The enemy has meant for Aidan Jeremiah to be a curse but God said he is a BLESSING.
I was told I should have aborted him and it’s my fault because I shouldn’t have had him like that from someone who I didn’t think would ever say something like that. But yes I took the blame because this baby is apart of me and my husband. I would still question God as to why did he allow this to happen. All I would hear was it’s for my “GLORY”.  Since Aidan’s birth my life has been a disaster. I’ve lost people and things. When I say people it’s about a couple or two but some much suffering is happening. 
When I finally got the courage to go to church I received more hurt. I noticed people looking at my baby strange and people who would normally speak to me stopped. I guess they thought I have a disease and my baby was affected by it. But what I’ve learn is that people will be people. We don’t know what a person is going through inside or feeling but when you enter the church you are suppose to feel love and comfort. But I didn’t receive that. People would just walk on by like I didn’t exist and knowing I just had a baby. It was only a few who acknowledge us. After a few Sunday’s I didn’t want to return.  I started feeling like I was the worst person in the world. I’ve learned if you want to know something asked. I rather for people to ask me what happen instead of assuming. No, I did not take any medicine and no it’s not genetic. It happened it has happen to several people but we as people live inside a so called perfect box that we cannot see outside of that box.  
 ABS affects 1 in 12,000 live births and its majority the cause of a lot of miscarriages. I encourage people to read up on it. Yes, Aidan’s physical appearance is different from us all but he is perfectly fine. People shouldn’t treat people differently because of a disability. I’ve read successful stories of people born like Aidan and has meet some too and they are doing well. He will not be treated differently from my other children and I will not allow anyone to speak negative over his life. He may appear to be disable but with God his is ABLE to do anything. There’s no DIS with God.
I’ve said all that to say that I’ve finally realized that all of this happened because God allowed it. He chose me and my husband to be Aidan’s parent’s for a reason. It’s up to us to accept it and I have. Aidan has changed my life, my way of thinking and has shown me what true love is. IT’S UNCONDITIONAL.  It took God to give me a child like this for me to realize something’s that was in me that needed to come out. Yes, I’m suffering and going through but it’s not because of something I’ve done or did it’s because God has a higher work in me and Aidan has a work to do also. I’ve skipped around a lot in this letter but as of last night 11/8/11 I finally get it.
 God answered my question as to why he allowed Aidan to be born like this. He has been saying it all along but I refused to accept it. He took me to Job 15:1-17:16-I will sum it up, Job friends gave their opinion on why he was suffering all of their opinions hurt Job but Job knew he didn’t do anything to cause his troubles.  So what I got from all of that is that suffering doesn’t always come from sin. People always see suffering as wrong but it’s not.  God’s teaching does not say that all suffering is from sin or punishment.  So we have to be carefully of what or how we respond to people that’s going through suffering. In John 9, the Blind man was questioned “who sinned, this man or his parent’s and it was neither.  It happened because God wanted to use him (Blind man) for his GLORY and that’s one thing God told me about my suffering his Glory. Then he took me to Jeremiah 1:4-19, focus scriptures were 4-10; God told Jeremiah before he was conceived he singled him out for his special work. The prophet (Jeremiah) had been set apart and sanctified for God to use in a peculiar way. That’s what he gave me.  See I had forgot all about being called by God to do a great work we have to be set apart and we a peculiar people. Meaning DIFFERENT!!! WOW!!! Thank God for revelation. 
I have been through a lot in my lil life but this right here has really knocked me down and renewing my way of thinking. I now know I cannot put all my trust in man no matter who it is. God is a jealous God! Even though I’m going through I still see the little small blessing that he is sending my way. I was told God get’s the Glory out of the situation and we get the blessing we when we obey. When you stand for what’s right the enemy doesn’t like it. So since I didn’t terminate my baby because of how he is the enemy has really tried to take me out. I’ve thought about suicide, I’m still fighting depression and asking God to cover my mind. My heart is almost completely healed from all the past hurt from people. I can look my enemies in the face and tell them I’m praying for you. I speak to them and most of all I LOVE THEM. I have been healed from sickness in the past but nothing knocked me completely down until the birth of my baby being born with missing limbs. Aidan is my JOY!  I see God hands on him daily. He is full of love and he is appointed by God. God gave me his name for a reason before I knew I was having a boy.
Friends and family, I asked that you treat people like you want to be treated. Because they look different on the outside don’t ignore them that’s the worst thing you can do. Show love!! Be there for them with comfort and encouragement. If they receive it or not still do your part SHOW LOVE! Continue to pray that I grow stronger and that God give me strength to carry out this task that he has set before me as Aidan’s mom. We have a long road ahead and I know that the enemy is not through. I skipped through a lot but I know God had me to write this for a reason.
I Thank God, for Blessing me with such wonderful family and friends, who have truly been there for me since Aidan’s birth. It has meant a lot. Words cannot say how much your love and gratitude mean.  You know who you are.
Love,
Tosha