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Wednesday, July 25, 2012


The Spiritual Corner, but Not In The Box

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Wise or Foolish, which one are you?

I talk to many women who are troubled, stressed and ready to give up on their marriage. Their main complaint is that "He's not the man I thought he was", "He's not the same man I dated" and the all time classic: "I'm tired of being in my marriage alone". The first question I always ask after hearing these statements is: Have you prayed about your marriage? Quickly the answer is an absolute "Yes". The next question I ask is: What did or is GOD saying to you? Most assuredly and shamefully the answer is " I don't know". I want to share with you, my sisters, how Proverbs 14:1 became active in my life and how the Lord has blessed and healed my marriage and allowed us to LOVE and ENJOY each other for 19years. GLORY BE TO GOD!!!!

I, too had these same feelings and made these same statements with the mindset that "I" had it all together. He was the one with the problem not me, so I thought. Until I really did begin to pray for my marriage. I started out in prayer with an attitude of being mad at God because I didn't get the "Husband" HE promised me. Again so I thought. As I continued in prayer for my marriage presenting my complaints to God about my husband of what he was doing and not doing, etc, etc. The Holy Spirit spoke to me and asked a simple question: "What about you"? Me? I said, what about me? There was no answer. As I stayed in my prayer position I thought about what the Holy Spirit was asking. Receiving the revelation, I changed my prayer focus right then and there from him to ME!!!! I repented to the Father for my actions, attitude, words and feelings and began to ask the Father to teach me and show me how to be the wife HE created me to be, I desired to be and that my husband needed me to be. From that point on Father God began to "Build my house". HE first taught me how to study to be QUIET!!!! (Prov. 15:1, 1 Peter 3:1, James 1:19) a truly lost art for some of us. Then he taught me how to minister to my husband in love, compassion, understanding, mercy, grace, communication and intimacy (Eph 5:21-22). But most of all HE taught me how to BIRTH my husband in the Spirit by HIS WISDOM (James 1:5). It was a tedious process. It seemed the more I prayed the worse things got. However in the midst of it all the Father was showing and teaching me that all of the old stuff had to be removed before the new could shine through (2 Cor. 5:17). I had to die to myself (Luke 9:23). My way of thinking, reacting, feeling the whole nine (Rom 12:1-2, Philip. 2:5). I was tested and tried on every side (2 Cor. 4:8-10) so much so that many times I wanted to give up and walk away and say just forget it, I can do bad by myself. However, although that was the cry of my flesh, my spirit said I must stay and fight. For the fight was not of the flesh, but in the Spirit (Ps. 46:10). The war was not against my husband, but Satan who wanted to steal, kill and destroy what God had joined together (Eph.6:12). Once I realized what was really going on, I was strengthened to stand and fight and see the salvation of the LORD(Eph. 6: 10-18).

I started in my marriage as a foolish woman, but Glory be to God who made me a wise woman by seeking HIM and allowing HIM to CHANGE ME so that CHANGE could and would come in my marriage, family and house (Prov. 3:5-6). It is important for us to seek God for the indepthness of HIS Word and not just take it at face value. It's wonderful for us to be good homemakers and housekeepers, cooks and mothers, however that is only part of our duties as being Wise Women that Build our houses. To effectively build our house as a wise woman as the scripture teaches we much first seek God for HIS wisdom and not rely on our own (Matt. 6:33). In the Wisdom of God is great wealth. The Wisdom of God births and gives life, is reproductive, can be passed down from generation to generation and will bring you to a place in the presence of God where nothing else matters (Prov. 4:7).

Even after going through this process and having a strong marriage (Matt.19:6, Mark 10:9). I found myself in this place again just a few days ago, because I allowed the foolishness of someone else to affect me. The Holy Spirit quickly convicted me and I repented (1 John 1:9). No matter how long you are married, it's a fight to the finish (1 Tim. 6:12).

My prayer for us my sisters is that as we are journeying through our Make Over Process with God, that we TRULY allow God to make us over completely. My focus through this process is that God make me a vessel that can pour substance into those He sends to and that come after me. I pray as well that you all are blessed and encouraged through this writing.

Abundant Blessings
Glory-Filled Blessings,
Apostle Denise